Males of all ages routinely misrepresent their intentions with the specific hope of obtaining sexual consent from prospective female partners: typically, they feign sincerely romantic interest when their interest in the particular woman is strictly physical.
Instead of respecting how important many women consider an emotional connection as a prerequisite for sexuality, men disregard the very social mores they purport to value in their legitimate romantic interests (and for any females in their families) to exploit any conceivable opportunity to obtain sexual consent for their selfish purposes. Perhaps the most offensive element of this social dynamic is, precisely, that the same men prize chastity and even virginity in women as an ideal for their eventual life partners (Verene, p. 301).
What is most unfortunate and ironic about this situation is that to whatever degree moral rules apply to sexual conduct, they are violated much...
The other irony is that the traditional male preoccupation with female chastity is the main issue that accounts for comparative female reluctance to male sexual overtures in the first place. In principle, obtaining sexual consent under false pretenses should be more of a target for (legitimate) moral criticism (or even condemnation) than female "promiscuity," particularly when sexual promiscuity is encouraged (and usually admired) in males.
Perhaps, this disparity is understandable in parts of the world where women must conceal their faces and hair from the male gaze, by law, but it is inexcusable in this society.
References
Baker, R., Elliston, F. (2002) Philosophy & Sex. Buffalo: Prometheus
Verene, D.P. (1992) Sexual Love and Western Morality: A Philosophical Anthology. New York: Harper
