Love and marriage in Pride and Prejudice

Pride and Prejudice

Love and Marriage in Pride and Prejudice

In eighteenth century England, women had few choices. Aside from perhaps obtaining a position as a governess, their career options were severely curtailed. In Austen's era, marriage for women was less a matter of physical desire than it was of social position and financial security. In a letter written in 1861, Austen wrote, "Single women have a dreadful propensity for being poor, which is one very strong argument in favor of matrimony" (Gast, 1). The greatest achievement that most women aspired to was attracting a suitable mate and making a successful marriage. Gast states, "A woman's unmarried girlhood was often the decisive period of her life, and her decision about marriage was probably the most important one she would ever make" (3). However, if the marriage suffered financially, it also suffered emotionally. In Jane Austen's classic courtship novel Pride and Prejudice, the author explores the idea of marriage and its connections with social standing and financial security by examining five different examples of marital relationships through the eyes of her main character, Elizabeth Bennet.

The Unsuccessful Marriage

Phelan notes, "While the novel seems to promise a marriage plot, it also shows that it has no illusions about the inevitability of marital bliss" (293). For example, Mr. And Mrs. Bennet have experienced a less than satisfactory marital relationship that left both partners feeling bitterly disappointed. In a discussion with his daughter Elizabeth, Mr. Bennet warns her, "My child, let me not have the grief of seeing you unable to respect your partner in life. You know not what you are about." By this statement, he is referring to his marriage with Mrs. Bennet. Mc Master states, "Married to a stupid woman whom he has ceased to love, he is a man whose emotional life has evidently been a painful failure" (730). According to Sherry, "For having lost all respect and esteem for his wife, Mr. Bennet has now lost any respect he might have had for the name and character of the man who was fool enough to marry her" (618).

Financial issues contributed greatly to the failure of Mr. And Mrs. Bennet's marriage. Mr. Bennet was not as well to do as some of his neighbors, much to the dismay of his wife. His net worth was only five thousand pounds. His home had been willed to Mr. Collins, who as Mr. Bennet stated, "when I am dead, may turn you all out of this house as soon as he pleases" (45). Mrs. Bennet felt that she had been disgraced in social status and deprived of financial security because of her marriage. Mr. Bennet felt that Mrs. Bennet's failure to give birth to a son had greatly contributed to their woes. In summary, the relationship was an emotional failure mostly because of their financial issues.

The Marriage of Passion

Another type of disastrous relationship that is explored in Pride and Prejudice is the marriage of passion. Elizabeth's younger sister Lydia elopes with Darcy's sworn enemy Wickham, a shady character who has left a trail of bad debt and broken relationships behind him. Lydia is only sixteen and is both headstrong and wild. Elizabeth notes that "Sometimes one officer, sometimes another had been her favourite, as their attentions raised them in her opinion. Her affections had been continually fluctuating, but never without an object" (202). Crowe states that Lydia is not only "prepared to fall in love…she is determined to do so" (212).

Wickham was not as romantically inclined as Lydia. Like Lydia, he had a steady stream of love interests. Lowder-Newton notes that Wickham "first chooses Georgiana Darcy, and then in succession, Elizabeth Bennet, Mary King, and Lydia Bennet" (31). His motives are less than genuine. When he and Lydia first eloped, he had no intention of marrying her. Crowe states, "His original motive for running away with Lydia is to escape some gambling debts and to have a little fling with an attractive girl while he is at it" (212). This relationship was unsurprisingly unsuccessful. "His affection for her soon sunk into indifference: hers lasted a little longer, and in spite of her youth and her manners, she retained all the claims to reputation which her marriage had given her" (281). Lydia's marriage was not only unfulfilling in itself, but it resulted in a permanently tarnished social status.

Like her parents' marriage, Lydia's relationship with Wickham was largely a failure because of the lack of financial stability. Gardiner tells Elizabeth, "Wickham will never marry a woman without some money. He cannot afford it" (204). When Wickham agrees to legitimizing the relationship, it is on the grounds that Mr. Bennet provides them with one hundred pounds per year (218) and his gambling debts are paid in full. Jane and Elizabeth often sent money to the unhappy couple, who had a pattern of overspending and moving. Their relationship failed because Lydia and Mr. Wickham were both financially and emotionally unstable.

The Successful Marriage

Mrs. Bennet is determined that all five of her daughters marry well. In the beginning of the story, her oldest daughter Jane appears to be on the verge of fulfilling her deepest wishes. She has become enamored of Mr. Bingley, and he with her. Jane and Mr. Bingley are temperamentally similar. Sherry describes Mr. Bingley as being "everything a social gentleman should be -- lively, open, unreserved, with a pleasant countenance and an agreeable manner" (612). Elizabeth, Mrs. Bennet's second daughter and the main character of the story, describes Jane by saying "You never see a fault in any body. All the world are good and agreeable in your eyes. I never heard you speak ill of a human being in my life" (10). Similarly, Mr. Bingley is described as "good looking and gentlemanlike: he had a pleasant countenance, and easy, unaffected manners" (6). Elizabeth expects that they will be happy together in their relationship because "they had for basis the excellent understanding, and super-excellent disposition of Jane, and a general similarity of feeling and taste between her and himself" (252). Both are easygoing, good natured and trusting.

Bingley's wealth did not hurt the relationship either. He was "a young man of large fortune" (1) with an income of four or five thousand pounds per year. His wealth made him a suitable marriage partner because he could provide financial security for Jane. One of the first comments Mrs. Bennet makes after hearing about the impending marriage is, "Why, he has four or five thousand a year, and likely more." The fact that they got along well was less important than his economic status.

The Ideal Marriage

According to Hinnant, "One of the unstated conventions of the courtship novel is that the lovers must undergo traumatic experience, a violent shift from innocence to self-knowledge before their union can be consummated (1). In the relationship between Darcy and Elizabeth, Austen explores the connection between two people who originally loathe each other but grow and change throughout the novel. Unlike the other characters that tend to remain static throughout the novel, Elizabeth must undergo a mental and emotional journey before she and Darcy can achieve a successful relationship.

When Elizabeth first meets Darcy, she believes that he is the most disagreeable man that she has ever met. He is "haughty, reserved and fastidious, and his manners, though well bred, were not inviting" (11). She decides that her first impressions of Mr. Darcy were correct after spending some time with Mr. Wickham, who accused Darcy of defrauding him of his inherited property. Morgan states, "One of the most powerful facts in Pride and Prejudice is that after Elizabeth has her moment of shame and revelation at Hunsford so many of her perceptions continue to be quite wrong" (66). Morgan indicates that Elizabeth is almost always wrong about Mr. Darcy. Despite her sister Jane's reasoning, she misjudges him at every opportunity. She begins to suspect that she had judged him incorrectly after a letter in which he explained his side of the story regarding Mr. Wickham's inheritance, but does not realize just how badly she has misjudged him until she discovers that he has intervened in the affairs of her family by traveling to London to bring about the marriage of Lydia and Wickham by agreeing to pay off Wickham's gambling debts. At this point she realizes that he is a good man and that she was foolish to turn down his offer of marriage.

Darcy has a large estate. He is worth over ten thousand pounds per year. Although Elizabeth does not directly mention his wealth when she discusses her reasons for pursuing a second proposal, she reveals a good deal in her conversation with Jane on page 272. When Jane asks, "Will you tell me how long you have loved him?" Elizabeth answers by saying partly in jest, "It has been coming on so gradually, that I hardly know when it began. But I believe I must date it from my first seeing his beautiful grounds at Pemberley." Although Jane urges her to quit joking and to be serious, there are several quotes that indicate her feelings when she saw the estate. First, on page 177 when she first sees Pemberley she is in wonder at the size and grandeur of the estate. "At that moment she felt, that to be mistress of Pemberley might be something!" On page 178 she thinks with evident regret, "And of this place…I might have been mistress!" His wealth was not what first interested her in him, but it ensured the financial security and well-being of herself and her family.

Conclusion

Throughout the reading, it becomes evident that the more money the man has, the more successful the marriage. Mr. Bennet and Mr. Wickham have little money to spare, and their relationships are both dismal. Charlotte married Mr. Collins for his money and considered herself exceedingly fortunate to have landed such a prize. Her marriage lacked love or passion, and yet it was more successful than that of the Bennets or Wickhams, who had less money.

The next most successful marriage was between Jane and Bingley. They had similar temperaments; more importantly, he was quite rich. Finally, the most successful marriage was made between Elizabeth and Darcy. Out of all five of the marriages, Darcy had the most money and the biggest estate. It can hardly be coincidence that their marriage was the most successful.

In summary, the emotional aspect of marriage is important in determining whether a couple will get along. However, it is second to social status and financial security. In a society where women had few options other than marriage to secure their futures, the wealth of the future husband was paramount to ensuring the success of the relationship.