Imposing Too Few Restrictions When it Comes

¶ … imposing too few restrictions when it comes to parenting. Children want boundaries and too few restrictions do not give the child what they need. Too few restrictions may create problems for the child. TOO FEW RESTRICTIONS BRING HEARTACHE Too few restrictions bring heartache. Structure is important in the lives of every child. Restrictions are important in guiding a child to make the right decisions in life. Children look to the parent or teacher to guide them in making choices.

Without these restrictions or rules, the effects will be children who make poor decisions that may affect their entire lives. Whether the child is two or eighteen, the child wants the parents to guide him/her throughout the day. There are so many choices, decisions, problems, etc. The effect of not having enough rules is a child that might destroy his/her life. Restrictions are mandatory for a child to be productive and happy. The mother of Joanna loved and cherished her after losing two stillborns.

She often let Joanna make her own decisions and failed to correct her. She spent most of her time with Joanna and failed to teach Joanna how to make friends and how to act socially. Joanna was loud and often obnoxious. When Joanna started to school, she continued to loud and obnoxious. Needless to say, Joanna had a difficult time making friends. The effect of her mother not placing restrictions and rules on social conduct is a fifteen-year-old teenager who still lacks the social skills that she needs in life.

Her mother failed in making rules concerning her loudness and in helping her to make friends. Love was important to Joanna, but she needed guidance and rules. She needed to be taught social skills. Joanna lacked the ability to adjust with her classmates. She made "A's" in her education and she got along great with her teachers. She lacked the ability to make friends her own age.

The effect of her mother not giving her rules about how to play with other children is the lack of ability to make and keep friends. Another example of too few restrictions can be seen in Rocky. Rocky was born an addict. The grandparents would have to raise him. They felt sorry for him because he had been born an addict and had a lot of problems. Often they would not deny his wants or demands. Each day those demands seem to grow louder and louder.

Rocky was allowed to hit his grandmother without getting spanked. When Rocky started to school, he tried acting the same way with the teacher and students. Needless to say it did not work. Rocky struggled with school and had to be placed in special education. Rocky's grandparents continued to fail to correct him. Finally, one day he broke into a store. Rocky was placed in a hospital setting where he could get structure and guidance. The love that Rocky's grandparents had was not enough without guidance and instructions.

The effect of Rocky not having rules is the fact that he now is in prison. A child wants guidance and direction. They need to be taught how to act in different environments. Rules are important. Both Joanna and Rocky were loved, but not in the right way. It takes love to correct a child. Love without correction is not truly love. Love that corrects and teaches is truly love. Children ask to be corrected.

The effect of children who do not have limits can be seen in the inability to be a healthy adult. A child that runs out in the street can get hit by a car and killed. If a parent loves the child, then he/she will tell the child not to run in the street. If the child does, the parent will bring the child in the house to sit or whatever method of correction they use.

If the child is playing and the ball rolls in the street, the child will come get the parent or watch both ways and get the ball. The child learns it is not safe to run in the street and if they do his/her parents will correct him/her. The effects of the child continuing to run in the street may eventually lead to a child that is hurt or dead. Another example can be seen in teachers not giving enough rules or restrictions.

If a child is allowed to run, talk, or do whatever they please, the students will not learn. If everyone in the class were screaming, not only will that class not learn, probably the classes close to it will not learn because there is too much noise. The effect of few rules in the classroom is chaos. If a teacher fails to make a student learn to do math, the child will not be able to function as an adult.

Math is important to everyone because when they buy things they need to know how to count the money. Imagine if a person gives a cashier $50 and does not wait for change. The effect of an adult that cannot count is an adult who may lose his money. His money will not last very long without he is a millionaire. Correcting children is vital in the child's growth. Children will test the limits, but they want to be corrected.

They want to be told "no." Children without limits will make poor decisions. They will not grow up to their full potential. Children without restrictions may be adults in prisons or homeless. Children often push so that the parent is forced to correct them. If every child were able to.