Rachel Year-Old Jewish Girl, Rachel

Rachel

year-old Jewish girl, Rachel was admitted to the ward after having a dosage of 10 panadol tablets last night. She told the a&E department that she wanted to be lonely and she wanted to die. Rachel was brought in by her sister who disclosed that Rachel had a big fight with her father for having a date with the 18-year-old son of a Kosovan asylum seeker family who had recently shifted to their street. Her father argues that kosovans are gypsies and are not to be reliable. Rachel is not eating or talking to anybody. I had an opportunity to meet Rachel and her family members. I discussed with Rachel 3 issues that is concerned with her which forced her to take such an extreme step. I clarified her that if these three issues were taken in correctly, she can get self-confidence in her life and she will take positive decisions that upset none. In this paper I explain those three issues that affected Rachel and how these three issues have to be understood and handled in order to get full confidence on life. The three issues identified are Infatuation, Inter-religion dating and Depression. (Judaism: (http://board.muse.mu/)

Infatuation:

There is a need for Rachel to understand that what she mistakes for love is in fact infatuation. So what is meant by Infatuation? Infatuation is a kind of suffering. In common dialect, infatuation is branded as being a fool for love. It is usually conceded as a state in which a person's normal talent to think evidently and act sensibly is thrown aside with doubtful enthusiasm. Desire concentrates on a certain person and all of a sudden nothing counts but that forcing attraction. The dictionary powerfully proposes that the evident result of infatuation is a decrease in mental ability. A frequent meaning given for infatuation is foolishness, indicating serious results to follow from foolishness leading to obsessed passion. There are different stages of infatuation. The foremost act in the life of an infatuation is that magic instant when someone all of a sudden takes on special significance for us. A storm of disturbing thinking about the preferred one comes after the bolt of lightening.

The initial emotional dynamic of infatuation comes from this high intensity expectation: a wonderful mixture of hope and uncertainty that has supported poetry. Science gives an explanation of infatuation: Research has established the subsistence of an amphetamine-like chemical, which is quickly triggered when we start feeling fascinated to someone. This chemical is known as phenylethylamine -- PEA, that well-known material that makes laboratory rats push levers until they fall dead from tiredness. Psychology justifies infatuation as follows: Freud's most intense role to modern thought was to show us the level to which our behavior, mainly our love behavior, is lead by unconscious procedures. He made an additional emphasis that we are fascinated to go through particular relationships in an effort to meet closeness needs formed in our initial ages, with our first love objects: Mom and Dad.

Carl Jung gave a popular notion that opposites magnetize, and for very good reasons. He hypothesized that we are automatically attracted to those who show characters we lack, or in some way immature, in our own psyches and that we always try to complete or balance ourselves someway through close attachments. We are lured like a moth towards the flame in the state of infatuation, which we want to acquire for our enduring warmth. The intense we go into this topic, the more infatuation appears to reveal its dictionary definition as the personification of stupidity. The knowledge appears to take deliberate options right out of the picture. When we are obsessed with someone - or something - it seems as though we have become little love robots, biochemical puppets with no desire of our own, without a lucid thought in our heads! And what is the fantastic suborn for what seems to be a love contribution of senseless submission? We have to be awake and alert of our preferences in order to make sure that infatuation can accomplish its true role in the natural discovery and growth of love. Only alert submission and constant affection can make the real sparkle of infatuation finally work to our benefit. (Infatuation: (www.sosuave.com)

Rachel needs to test to know what kind of person you are most infatuated to. Often adolescents fall into infatuation with no genuine base for comparison it is easy to think that they are in love. So how could you make out the difference? Infatuation may leave you thunderstruck, with a dry mouth, butterflies in your stomach, perspiring palms. it's thrilling, invigorating, and powerful. But none of these things is an assurance that you are in love or will be in love. (Teen Dating: Is it Love or Infatuation?) Admiration sets in the early phase of intrusive thinking. The erotic spit pervades everything and forms that famous radiance with which we love to blind ourselves. For a moment, the obsessed observes no faults with the beloved and confesses to no obstructions to forward progress. (Infatuation: (www.sosuave.com) Infatuation thus refers to an instantaneous wish that weakens away over time. It lacks self-confidence. It produces feelings of envy and suspicion. It makes a person annoyed. It may make the person to do things that he or she may feel sorry for. It makes one unhappy. (Love & Infatuation)

Really to love a person means to know the good and bad about them. When you love someone you truly are concerned about their daily happiness, and that comprises considering their feelings and their choices. Real love is more about the other person than you. If both of you are viewing the relationship that way, both of you will have your real requirements met. Placing the other person first does not imply that you hurry into sex as your partner says he/she requires it. Genuine love will wait till both of you are ready. It has to be healthy, if your relationship is to last forever. (Teen Dating: Is it Love or Infatuation?) Hence Rachel should not jump into conclusion and listen to her parent's advice.

Inter-religion Dating:

In most dating relationships, inter-religion dating is a common feature. In this one partner is of a different religion as in the case of Rachel. Life can be stony and painful for teens who date outside their race or ethnicity or particularly if their parents disagree with their relationship. When their parents are entirely not in favor of tolerating somebody they are close to, it can be annoying for them. (Forbidden Love: Dating Outside Your Race or Ethnicity) When dating with a partner of a different religion, two problems occur. The main values of two religions may vary and may affect the relationship. One mate may be required to come out of his promise by the other. A partner is somebody you give your heart to; someone who controls your thoughts and feelings. So, do not let this be a nonbeliever, as the results could be shocking. The base line is this: Be cautious about whom you give yourself away to. (Inter-religion dating)

Some procedures for dating are in order: As dating is grounding for marriage, date only those who have high values, who value your principles, and in whose company you can preserve the values of the gospel of Jesus Christ. The probability for a happy and long-lasting marriage will be far better if you date with those who are lively and realistic in the Church. Such dating will most probably end in marriage in the House of the Lord. Obviously, correct marriage starts with correct dating. Generally a person marries someone from among those with whom he has acquaintances, with whom he goes to school, with whom he goes to church, with whom he hangs out. Thus, this forewarning comes with great importance. Do not take the risk of dating nonmembers, or members who are inexpert and who follow another faith. A girl may say that she does not intend marrying the person and that it was only a fun date. But a person should not take risk on falling in love with a person who never believes in the gospel.

Generally conflict-ridden clashes created by religious dissimilarities, may lead to conflicts in a wider area than that of particular religious belief and observation. Even if for the sake of agreement, the parties consent to become inoperative in any church, still the adjournment of their previous religious training, the cultural patterns and personal values, will intensify and confuse the problems of day-to-day living. There are complete guidelines for daily living in Orthodox Judaism. Catholicism needs compliance to the authority of the church, while Protestantism generally emphasizes individual freedom. Most young people brought up in any one of these religious groups are extremely affected by their early training, and if they marry into different beliefs and agree to raise a family, their basic problems are greatly augmented. Selfless young people, before they start dating, should evade the risk of embarrassment and date with those who are of their own belief. All veteran therapists know that religious differences are the main causes for incongruity and sadness. (Dating and Marrying Nonmembers) Hence Rachel needs to understand that it is not a wise decision to marry a person of a different race.

Depression:

In a love life, when parents object and when the partner is not understandable the person in question would face enormous depression. So what is meant by depression? The loss of an essential life aim without accusing anybody is depression. This loss disturbs our behavior, our temper or personal feelings, our talent, our outlook or inspiration, and our physical functioning and health. The outcomes of depression are "behavioral extremes, poor memory, confusion, loneliness, lack of care, going away from home, disobedient, violence gripped with guiltiness and fear about doing mistakes, about being reckless, crying, suicidal pressures." (History and Gender factors in Depression)

Over 18 million Americans are miserable. Of these 2 million are teenagers. In certain cases, the biological trend toward depression is present in a family. In other cases, life pressures cause depression. Today American families are very busy. Parents, who have to manage the family alone, work for longer hours to provide financial support for the family. A parent may begin to date again, or may just be dealing with his or her own depression. A dejected teen may feel the parent's pressure or concern and feel culpable about oppressing the parent with his own problems. Some parents may attempt to make the teenager feel better by reducing the problem or they may in fact reject his request. More and more teenagers have been looking for each other out when they are perplexed, miserable or in difficulty. Occasionally, they may form an intricate group of support for a depressed or suicidal colleague. This can be a helpful early caution system for worried teens. Other times, it may include giving out antidepressant medicines, concealing a runaway, or preventing psychiatric help. Parents and teenagers must be conscious of the forewarning indications of depression and suicidal thinking. It is essential to take time to talk with the depressed person. Ensure that he or she gets help from mature adults. This is what Rachel's parents are to do, to give her support rather than to scold or punish her. (Child and Adolescent Depression: Diagnosis and Treatment)

To be depressed does not indicate that there is something wrong in your life religiously, even though sometimes it is a religious problem. Being depressed is just being in a low point or low condition bodily or expressively. The teenagers often struggle with being downcast or depressed, as they go through the physical and emotional changes in their life. Sometimes mixtures of physical and social problems or changes cause some to withdraw into them. But sometimes people see only the pessimistic things that enclose them and this makes them depressed. These physical, emotional and social conditions are very genuine. In a teen's life, there is no question about the certainty of these issues. The queries we have to answer biblically are how the teens should tackle all these physical, emotional and social circumstances in their life? Depression is actually the mistreatment of life's problems and circumstances, some of which, people bring on themselves. If they are depressed due to their parent's regulations or principles, then they there is a need to understand that God requires that children, must obey their parents and should have respect for them. There is no mid-path; it is either compliance or defiance on their part. There is a need to understand that your depression that you are blaming on your parents rules actually has little to do with your parent's principles, but it has all to do with your erroneous reaction towards your parents, which is a corrupt reaction.