The speaker of Theodore Roethke’s poem “My Papa’s Waltz” reflects on his abusive father. Using an ABAB CDCD rhyme scheme and fixed meter, the poet underscores the main motifs of music and dance. The titular waltz is a structured dance set to a specific type of music. Constrained by the form of the waltz, the speaker seems to have internalized guilt and complicity in his father’s behavior by suggesting that it takes two people to waltz. His “clinging”(line 12) and having “hung on like death” (line 3) add another dimension of pathos to an already heart-wrenching story. The reader will protest the child having any responsibility for the father’s behavior, adding to the dramatic tension in the poem. Music and dance symbolism also add a potent degree of irony to the poem, as a waltz is typically associated with fine art and not with domestic violence. The subtle cues in the poem related to gender and socioeconomic class do, however, show that Roethke deliberately chose the waltz specifically as a means of making social commentary.A formal dance, the waltz has a specific structure in which the male is supposed to lead the two-person partnership. The speaker of “My Papa’s Waltz” affirms this, especially by showing how he clung and hung onto his father in spite of being abused. He was...

The mother is only mentioned once, in the second stanza of the poem. Like the speaker, she is totally disempowered. She can only stand around and watch while her son and her husband “romped until the pans / Slid from the kitchen shelf,” (lines 5-6). In this scene, Roethke clearly segregates the male and female domains: the mother is mentioned in the same space as the kitchen because the kitchen is the wife’s domain. Although the wife serves in her domestic duties, she defers to the will of the husband even if that means tacitly condoning violence. The poem suggests that patriarchal social codes and customs can be inherently violent and abusive, and do not necessarily entail legitimate rules or structures.
Patriarchy is in fact the root cause of the father’s violence, and his distortion of what should be a wonderful dance into something sinister and possibly deadly, “like death,” (line 3). The speaker is careful to point out that the father has a hard life, leading him to drink too heavily: “the whiskey on your breath / could make a small boy dizzy,” (lines 1-2). While not fully excusing the father, the speaker does want to convey his empathy and…