People Fall in Love? One

¶ … people fall in love? One of the first reasons is that of passion that one person has for another. It can be called hormones, mentality, spirit, sentiments or something else. When a person falls in love with someone else they often feel that they can't live without them. Physical attractiveness is not the only criteria in romantic zealous love. An extremely attractive girl can passionately fall in love with a common looking man to the astonishment of many around them.

There is usually a bit more that should be looked at. If one was to ask a lover about why they love their beloved it is often that they would get a reasonable answer. Love does not gauge character, nor does it set any principles (Mohatta, 2010). Often times love occurs out of admiration of characteristics of another. This kind of love is dissimilar than romantic love, but can be just as compelling. One may get fascinated with a person's singing that they want to be with them all the time.

It can be any feature, but it is the admiration of that feature that brings out love. In some instances two people find so many things in common between them that they think they are soul mates. These people feel that they were made for each other, and are bound by the universal qualities among them (Mohatta, 2010). I interviewed two different married couples in order to see just what was it that attracted them to each other and why it is that they are still together.

The first couple was that of Lee and Jackie. These two got married when they were 27 years old. They are currently coming up on their sixteenth wedding anniversary. This was Jackie's first marriage and Lee's second. They met when Jackie had answered a personal ad in the local newspaper that Lee had placed looking for love. The two talked for weeks over the phone and met one day for dinner. They have not been apart since.

This couple was instantly attracted to each other when they first talked on the phone. They had a lot in common and believed in the same goals and values. Both of these people came from the same background and where the same age. This allowed for them to have a lot in common. About a year after they were married they had their first child together. Lee had a child from his first marriage, so this was his second.

The agreed for the most part on how they were going to raise their children. Three years later they had a set of twins to add to their family. They have a very strong family and rely a lot on each other in raising their kids. They are looking forward to their children being out of the house within the next five years or so. They have a dream to retire to somewhere where it is warm and to maybe be able to travel once their kids are grown.

These two admit that they haven't always seen eye-to-eye on everything, but they know that they love each other and they couldn't see themselves with anyone else. Their kids are getting older though now and they do have some worries about how things will be when the kids are all gone and it is just the two of them again. They have plans for their future but know that there will be an adjustment period in which they will have to rediscover life without kids again.

These two appear to have a solid plan and I can see them being together for a long time to come yet. The other couple that I interviewed was that of Crystal and Greg. These two have been married for six years and have two children. When they got married, Crystal was 26 and Greg was 42. This was Crystal's first marriage and Greg's second. Greg had three children from his previous marriage. They originally were introduced by way of friends and immediately took to each other.

They dated for several months before they got married. Crystal was four months pregnant at the time. Four years later they had their second child. These two have been married now going on seven years and I can see where the old seven-year itch syndrome may be setting in, especially for Crystal. Since there is such an age difference between the two there are often problems between the two of them.

They both seem to have their ideas on how things should be done and there does not appear to be a lot of room for compromise. They both admit that they fight frequently, but yet most of the time it is over stupid stuff. I think that the majority of their issues come down to the difference in their ages. This couple obviously has their two kids in common, but it doesn't seem like they have much else.

He likes to hang out with his friends and she likes to hang out with hers. Their friends are more their same age respectively. This does not bode well for them having much in common or anything to talk about other than the kids. Even though the kids are young neither of them has ever talked about their plans for the future together. They seem to completely live in the moment and for the here and now. In interviewing these two I didn't see a lot of stability in.