Perhaps by thinking of the responsibility of influence as a right and a privilege, it is easier to sometimes tell the truth. The responsibility of influence is ongoing. Our children learn by repeatedly seeing action, and this in turn helps them to form character. When our children see us being honest, then they learn that honesty and truthfulness are the norm. We are helping our children when we do so, since we help them to form a fine character.

How do we explain to children about white lies? When we make our children aware of the fact that they are responsible for what they say and do, then they will understand that they must be careful in what they say and do. We can also use this opportunity to teach our children about compassion and empathy. When a child is able to reconcile the truth with the ability to identify other's feelings and needs, then they make a great step to becoming fulfilled human beings. As adults, no matter what our relationship to the child...

While the things the children say on shows like "Kids Say the Darndest Things" are funny in that context, a child who was encouraged to speak in such a candid and sometimes hurtful manner under the heading of truth at all costs will not function well in society. This the responsibility becomes even greater. We must demonstrate to our children that they should be aware of how their speech and action can affect how others feel and promote in the child not only a sense of honesty but also a strong sense of caring and kindness towards others, in what they say and in what they do, at all times.
Reference:

Kids Say the Darndest Things" (1998) DVD, Columbia Home Video.

U.S. Department of Education. Helping your child become a responsible citizen. U.S. Government Printing. Accessed via the internet on 18 September 2006 at www.ed.gov/parents/academic/help/citizen/citizen.pdf