This paper examines the multifaceted concept of love by tracing its definitions across history, world religions, philosophy, and psychology. Beginning with Webster's broad dictionary definition, the paper surveys how ancient Greek thinkers categorized love into four types—storge, philos, eros, and agape—and how major religious traditions including Christianity, Hinduism, and Buddhism each characterize love differently. The paper then investigates what love is not, drawing on biblical texts and psychological research to distinguish morally affirming love from its dangerous or excessive manifestations, including love addiction and violence committed in love's name. The conclusion emphasizes that love's meaning varies widely across individuals and cultures, yet its most constructive form remains grounded in positivity and goodwill.
"Love is not a feeling. It's an ability." — Peter Hedges
When asked to define "love" in a single word, many adjectives come to mind: wonderful, unconditional, mysterious, powerful. Love is considered one of the greatest emotions known to humankind and ranges from familial love to romantic devotion to the benign affection that exists between good friends (Rosenberg, 2009). Love can be a sentiment or an action; a noun ("love is a many-splendored thing") or a verb ("love like you've never been hurt"). Love creates families, motivates acts of kindness, and inspires creativity. We view it as a protective force, such as a mother's love for a child. However, it can also move into more dangerous territory — thousands have perished in wars fought for love of God and country. Truly, there are myriad lenses through which to examine this complex concept.
Webster's dictionary generally defines love as "the intense emotion that we feel when we are drawn to a person or object we believe has value, worth, or goodness" (Merriam-Webster, 2012). This description allows us to merge our intellectual understanding of love with our shared emotional experience of it. Perhaps the best descriptor for love is "complicated." It is an emotion that can mean many different things to different people. It is therefore helpful to approach defining this multi-faceted concept by noting its historical categorizations and by exploring what love is not, in order to arrive at a more concrete understanding of what it is.
Most cultures and world religions describe love as an affectionate or passionate devotion (Mills, 2011). Plato and Aristotle posited that love is the desire and longing of the imperfect for the perfect. Hinduism makes reference to love as a primarily pleasurable, sexual experience. In Buddhism, love is described as selfish and a hindrance to enlightenment. St. Augustine spoke of the order of love (ordo amoris), which occurs when the love of God supersedes love of self. Perhaps it was the Greeks who offered one of the most expansive definitions of love, dividing it into four distinct categories: liking something (storge), friendship or fondness of another (philos), erotic or sexual love and attraction (eros), and selfless love (agape) (Elliott, 2012).
Storge, or liking, is often viewed as broad and benevolent — a simple enjoyment such as love for dogs, baseball, sunny days, or strawberry ice cream. Philos, or love of friends and family, can be understood as an all-encompassing, non-romantic caring for parents, siblings, extended family, and close friends. Eros is love with a sexual or desirous connotation — an erotic love that grows over time and can lead to marriage, procreation, and family. Finally, agape refers to selfless love. Of all the Greek classifications, agape is considered the highest and the most spiritually significant (Oord, 2012).
"Christian agape and biblical characterizations"
"Psychology, addiction, and misguided love"
In short, too much of anything can be bad — even love (Reynaud et al., 2010). In the end, how love is defined, by whom, and the subsequent expression and manifestation of that love can vary widely. This makes defining exactly what love is a difficult task. Everyone experiences it differently; however, most will agree that when based in positivity, peace, and goodwill toward others — where love exists, hate cannot.
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