Impact of Sexuality in Community

PERSONAL SEXUAL IDEOLOGY

Personal Sexual Ideology

1.) What ways do you think that your sexuality impacts your view of yourself? (This might impact how you feel about yourself psychologically, emotionally, physically, etc.)

Sexuality plays a vital role in a person's life when it comes to their identity and sense of self. Sexuality is mostly confused with sexual self-esteem, which influences our sexual decisions. Sexuality is about a person's sexual orientation or sexual preference and how they self-identify based on their sexuality (Fennell & Grant, 2019). Sexual orientation refers to who a person is emotionally, physically, and mentally attracted to. My sexuality impacts my view of myself in that based on my sexuality, I can tell what is good for me and what is not right. Being a straight or heterosexual human means, I am attracted to the opposite gender. I feel more connected sexually when interacting with people of the opposite gender and when I spend too much time with people of the same gender, I feel a disconnect.

I find myself gravitating towards the opposite gender instead of my gender, and I have better conversations and discussions with people of the opposite gender. When presenting something in a room with mixed genders, I tend to focus more on people of the opposite gender since they give me the confidence to continue presenting. Sadly, I get disgusted when a person of my gender attempts to make a pass at me or flirts with me. The lack of sexual attraction to my gender puts me off, and I prefer a platonic relationship rather than an emotional one. To attract the attention of the opposite gender, one has to look good, making me pay close attention to my attires, body, and looks. I have found myself watching what I eat because I do not want to gain too much weight. While this might seem nice, it could be damaging, especially when the person you want to recognize fails, which can create negative emotions.

2.) What role does sex and sexuality play in your relationships with other people, especially romantic or sexual partners?

Sexuality plays a significant role in my relationships with other people. Being a heterosexual being, I prefer having romantic and sexual partners of the opposite sex. I do not have any romantic attraction towards people of my gender, and I mostly consider them friends. I have not had any sexual relations with a person of a similar gender because there is no attraction. I limit situations where there might be a loss of control when it comes to dealing or spending time with people or person of a similar gender. Being self-aware of my situations ensures that I do not find myself in awkward situations that lead to unfavorable interactions. Therefore, I only express and show interest to people who identify as heterosexual and of the opposite gender. I have friends of both genders, and I make it clear that the individual is only a friend to ensure there is no confusion. Having identified my sexuality, I can comfortably interact with others of my gender and not get attracted sexually or romantically to them.

With my romantic and sexual partners, I am cautious not to interact with everyone who shows interest in myself and who I am attracted to before getting to know them. Over time as we continue to meet and spend time together, feelings will develop, and sex will be on the table, provided everything feels right. Therefore, sex takes place between two people of different genders who have mutually agreed and are willing to participate in sexual relations. Sex is like the bond of a romantic relationship where two people connect on a deeper level. Sex provides us with the sexual satisfaction we crave when interacting and spending time with a romantic partner. Without sex, the relationship feels like it is missing something.

3.) What type of morality or moral perspectives do you associate with sexuality and sexual behavior? Do you have any ideas about what types of sexual behaviors or beliefs are right and wrong? What value systems do you use to help you determine this?

It is morally wrong to use sex as a tool to harm or punish another person, and people should respect each other. Some people want to sleep with as many partners as possible, and they do not understand the effect of their behavior. Sex should be cherished, and it should be shared between two loving human beings or opposite genders. We should not encourage the promiscuity currently taking place in society, and there should be ways to punish those who participate in promiscuous activities.

My morality is that being romantically attracted to a person of a similar gender is morally wrong and should not be encouraged. Sexual behavior should only be allowed between two people of different gender, i.e., male and female (Emmers-Sommer et al., 2018). Sex between people of similar genders goes against what is morally right when it comes to matters of sex. Sex is a pleasurable activity that can lead to recreation. However, there is no possibility of the same when two people of the same gender participate in sexual relations. The idea of having sex with a person of the same gender defeats the reasoning behind organ purposes. There is a huge risk to gay men as they might rapture their anus because it was never meant to be penetrated.

Sex is used for procreation. Therefore, when we begin to use sex for pleasure and encourage people to behave or mimic another gender, we are losing the moral fabric of society. The spiritual value system does not condone such relations, and churches have refused to allow marriages between same-sex genders. Some states do not allow same-sex marriages, indicating that the two people cannot be recognized as partners. Same-sex couples cannot conceive a child together because they lack a vital component. They will have to adopt or visit a fertility clinic with a sperm or egg donor to conceive a child.

4.) What do you think are the outside influences that have most strongly impacted your viewpoints on sexuality? (Some examples might be parents, religious groups, friends, the media, etc.) In what ways have they impacted these viewpoints?

Religious groups and parents have impacted my viewpoints on sexuality. Religious groups have demonstrated how evil and wrong having sexual relations with a person of the same gender is, and there is nowhere in the bible where we see same-sex marriages taking place (Emmers-Sommer et al., 2018). All bible characters had sex with opposite genders. Therefore, when I see same-sex couples, I always wonder what is wrong, and I cannot fathom the idea of two men behaving or dressing like women. Religion has taught us that there is a place for each person and a man and woman have to come together to create a home and start a family. How do same-sex couples come together and start a family without the assistance of an outside party? Gay or lesbian couples cannot start a family without a donor. Therefore, they will be siring a child who will have the genes of one of them and the donor. The biological parents of the child will not be the two couples. Instead, it will be one of the couples and an external party.