The findings appear in a special edition of the Journal of Adolescent Health.
Internet Harassment: What to Do?
Focus on safe use of new technology, not banning the technology.
Today's kids and teens are major media users, but they need grown-up guidance about safe media use, note the CDC's Corinne David-Ferdon, PhD, and Marci Feldman Hertz, MS. They predict that "with the development of new cell phones that are small enough to fit into young children's hands and that are designed to be visually attractive to a younger audience, more and younger children will become competent and frequent users of this technology."
That means that research on preventing online harassment "must be rapid and flexible enough to keep up with the evolving nature of technology," write David-Ferdon and Hertz.
How to solve the problem
How to solve the problem if you are being bullied, tell a friend, tell a teacher and tell your parents. It won't stop unless you do. It can be hard to do this so if you don't feel you can do it in person it might be easier to write a note to your parents explaining how you feel, or perhaps confide in someone outside the immediate family, like a grandparent, aunt, uncle or cousin and ask them to help you tell your parents what's going on.
Your form tutor needs to know what is going on so try to find a time to tell him/her when it won't be noticeable. You could stay behind on the pretext of needing help with some work. If you don't feel you can do that, then go to the medical room and speak to the school nurse.
The best idea is if a teacher can catch the bullies red-handed. That way, you won't get into bother from anyone for telling tales. It will be clear to everyone what has been going on. Don't be tempted to hit back because you could get hurt or get into trouble. Hitting someone is an assault. Try to stay in safe areas of the school at break and lunchtime where there are plenty of other people. Bullies don't like witnesses. If you are hurt at...
Make sure you tell your parents.
Bullying is upsetting Bullying is very upsetting and if you feel you can't cope, tell your parents and go to see your doctor. Many doctors are very sympathetic about the effects of bullying and yours may be able to write a note for the school explaining the effect that bullying is having on your health. You could think about judo or martial arts classes so that you are confident you can look after yourself if necessary.
If people are making nasty remarks about you then it may be because they are jealous. Perhaps you're better looking than they are or work harder or perhaps the teachers like you better. One way of dealing with remarks is simply to say...yeah, whatever,.... each time so that you show them that it isn't having the effect of upsetting you in the way they think. (Liz Carnell and Bullying UK, 2008)
GENERAL ADVICE
Remember the Golden Rules.
Do not give out personal information too freely. Always encourage your child to tell you of anything that upsets them. Keep a record of all bullying incidences either by saving or printing emails. If an email or text message is particularly disturbing or breaks the law, contact the police. Check on your school's anti-bullying policy and whether it addresses bullying using computers and mobile phones. If not, encourage them to look at this issue, if necessary with support from your PTA and School Board.
Bibliography
Be Safe Bullying. (2002). Online Bullying. Retrieved on March 23, 2008 at http://www.besafeonline.org/English/bullying_online.htm
Belsey, Bill. (2004). Cyberbullying.ca. Retrieved March 23, 2008, from Web site: www.cyberbullying.ca
Liz Carnell and Bullying UK. (2008). Formally Bullying Online. Advice for Pupils. Retrieved on March 23, 2008 at http://www.bullying.co.uk/pupils/index.aspx
Li, Q. (2006). Cyberbullying in Schools: A Research of Gender Differences. School Psychology
