Perhaps your partner is feeling the same things that you are feeling! Once your feelings are out in the open, it will be easier to come up with a solution to your problems.
One F:
First, you might want to consider the fact that you are imagining the fact that he is angry with you. Maybe things at work, in general, have not been going well. Or maybe he has a personal problem that is putting a damper on his professional life. You shouldn't jump to conclusions and assume that the way he has been acting is about only you. Second, if you really think that he is upset with you, and he has reason to be, then you should try talking with him. Tell him that you want to resolve the issue, and it will be a better learning experience if you know what he wants you to change.
Two
After imagining the outcome of these conversations, I believe that my answers to the first, second, fourth, and fifth prompts were unproductive, while my answers to the third and final prompts were productive. The response to the first prompt was unproductive because it simply seeks to explain the issue. The conversation would have probably ended with the person who had the problem still insure of a positive response. In addition, my answer to the second prompt, telling the speaker that he or she should wait for a romantic relationship, most likely would have been met with abrasiveness and impatience. This was not what the speaker was...
Similarly, in advising the speaker to stay in school in the fourth prompt, I have not really helped his dilemma and have probably made it harder by repeating what others have been saying, making the person with the problem feel as if he or she is being ordered to take a certain action. This is much like my response to the fifth prompt, where I advise the speaker to do, most likely, the opposite of what he wants to do.
Still, my answers to the third and final prompts were productive. In the third prompt, I explained to the child, in terms that he or she would understand, why the parents need to have a night out. By using the analogy involving the child at school, I will probably make the child understand parents' needs to be adults better, and the child may be less upset when the parents leave. In addition, in the final conversation, I picked up on the fact that the speaker was worried, and perhaps unnecessarily so. So, I advised him or her to be cautious about both worry and his or her actions at work. I also advised this person to take a positive step toward solving the problem. Because I have given the speaker hope that the boss was not really upset with him or her, while still suggesting that it is a possibility, I have given the speaker peace of mind, in addition to building trust so he or she will take my advice. Thus, my answers were most productive when they took the speaker's emotional state into consideration.
