Family Therapy Family Establishment and Term Paper
- Length: 16 pages
- Subject: Family and Marriage
- Type: Term Paper
- Paper: #50056770
Excerpt from Term Paper :
The roles of various members of the society are a dictate of the culture between the people involved. For instance, culture has always been behind the dictates that have led to the creation of separation among family members. Culture states that it is the responsibility of the family man to provide for the family. Failure to do that will result in conflicts within the family. In essence, many families have been broken because of failure of the family members to respond to what they culture has placed in the shoulders. The differences in these responsibilities are another facet that is considered to be explored as a rudimentary issue that influence the existence and stability of the families globally (Blume, 2006).
Cultural influences differ from one society to another. The society teaches different facets and norms of living. These norms are part of the essential facilities that dictate the dos and don'ts by the family members. For instance, the movie on "Ordinary people" has reiterated on the various roles of the family members. Calvin is always looked upon as husband and father to the family.
Through this perception and belief, Calvin is supposed to restore peace and stability within the family. The family members although united in emotions and accommodativeness, are separated because of their ideas and opinions. Beth is the mother of the family. With this capacity, Beth is supposed to explore all the possibilities and cultural exemplifications that make her as the best mother to the family. However, she is not in love with all the members of the society. She loved Buck more than she loved Conrad. Such a perception is weaknesses she conceived, and contributes to tensions and dynamic manifestations within Jarrett's family.
Calvin has a number of perceptions and feelings that he has developed from the cultural view of his society. He is self-oriented and perceives outward things. He loves his life and that of the family. Nonetheless, he does not want to lose the interests and love from hi family members. He takes his mother as a mother and loves her well. Nonetheless, he does not like revealing most of his secrets and feelings to the family members. He is agitated by the behaviours of his father and her mother after the death of Buck (Goldenberg, & Goldenberg, 2012).
He feels that he is lonely in the family. He requires further assistance in order to come to terms with his self. He feels guilty when he tries to commit suicide. Committing suicide appears to be a social evil. He tries his best to commit suicide. However, the love for his family is intense to s state that he chooses not to defy the teachings of his culture as concerns committing suicide. He decides to face the problems and challenges as a man thought by his cultural backgrounds.
The society in which the members come from is a dynamic society. Everyone is mindful of his or her ideas and activities. Cultural teachings are evident among the family member making up the organization. In most cases, it is evident that culture has led members into having a solid foundation in their belief and determination. Every member brought from any culture is determined to preserve that culture in whatever manner and design. The problem with culture in such a state is that even family members are committed to defending their culture even if it leads to division of the family (Kottler & Shepard, 2011).
In the ancient days, culture was against feminine qualities in the family. The same idea transcended to leadership qualities. Though many people came to the knowledge of equality, the desire to preserve the olden culture brings down universal beliefs that are geared at establishing equality within families. Therefore, the end of the matter is a lucrative determination that preserves the canons of the culture irrespective of the family. Culture breaks extrinsic teachings and embrace of diversity
Culture is behind every force that tries to break extrinsic teachings that improve or usher in diversity within human relations. In most cases, families could be made up of members from different cultural backgrounds. Instead of accommodating each culture, people are fond of negating one culture at the expense of another. When such aspects happen within a family, the family is likely to succumb to issues that might be hard to solve. Separation among family members could arise because of clinging to diverse cultural backgrounds. Entry of new facets of belief and operation is closed out when one is in deep belief of a given cultural pathway.
Family dynamics and structures causing problems
Several family dynamics and structure have resulted in immediate and long-time problems within Jarrett's family. The family has various canons and structural failures that have summed up to cause disputes and separations between members. Conrad is the youngest son in the family. Calvin who is married to Beth heads the family. Beth has been described as the decision maker in the family much to the presence of Calvin the husband. The first instance of dynamic separation is evident from the manner in which the family handles the aftermath of Buck's departure.
Buck is the eldest son who happened to be diseased. Conrad is brought down emotionally by the departure of his brother. He does not receive any support from the parents and close friends. He is depended much on his parents since he is still in high school. He notices that he can do nothing after the death of his brother. He attempted suicide, much to his rescue and hospitalization. The effects of the death attempt to make shim remain guilty throughout his life. There is no tender care and family filial love as expected to be comforted after the death of Buck (Goldenberg, & Goldenberg, 2012).
From the hospital, he comes home where he stays with her mother and father. Calvin has less care and concern for the ailing Conrad. Beth is the only one who shows enough care to the ailing son while he is not well. Failure to respond to family duties is thus another issue that has often resulted in dynamics within families. Response to family responsibilities has brought much tension and pressure to all the family members. Calvin is the initial candidate who does not resend to his duties. Beth has been introduced as the decision maker in the family even in the presence of Calvin (the head of the family). Beth is frustrated by his laziness and lack of concern. Nonetheless, Beth is concerned over the health of their son. The mother appears to be a tough candidate and the father a tender candidate, all but the contrary (Blume, 2006).
Communication is another facet that influences on the stability of members within a family. Lack of communication creates dynamism in families. Family members are ascribed to immense pressures from one another to communicate. For instance, the reasons that made Conrad attempt suicide all rests on lack of communication between him and the other family members. Conrad does not want to share his feelings and intentions with the family members. He lives in solidarity. When he commits suicide, he intends to take his life in order to be freed from the world of brutality and innocence. Communication is lacking in this scenario and family.
The family members and not in any constructive communication that can be depended on. For instance, the father and wife of the family do not have a solid understanding over the situation of the family. The family members exist in their own without innate and functional communication between them. In order to solve conflicts and differences that are there, the family is not clued to the fact that they need to have a solid foundation of communication. Beth is consistently frustrated by the fact that Conrad does not want to share his feelings about his ill health. On the other hand, Conrad is not pleased with the tense relationship between him and the rest of the family members. It is because of this reason that he even committed suicide.
The system that exists between the family members is to blame for the diverse generation of communication breakdown in the family. For instance, Beth has outside relationship with her mother and brother. She runs to them when in need of anything from these people. The relationship between Calvin and Conrad is tender in the absence of Beth. Nonetheless, the inclusion of Beth in this relationship is likened to a third force that does not assist anything to take place. Moreover, Beth as the decision maker within the family dominates the relationship between Beth and Calvin. Therefore, Beth is responsible for the inflexibilities in communication between all the family members. This common dynamic causes the problem in many families globally. All the members within the family are confused and have no idea on what they should do in their relationships (Blume, 2006).
Application of theoretical notions
Based on the structural model,…