In reality, such a parent would have difficulty raising a child on his or her own and the finances that he or she previously invested in providing the child with entertaining activities need to be directed at buying more important resources for the child.
A parent who is no longer in charge of his or her child's life has practically no problems buying a great deal of things for his or her child and thus influences the child in feeling that he or she is not receiving enough attention from the parent holding custody. Children can also be affected by the fact that parents often believe that there is a competition between themselves and their peers concerning who receives the most appreciation from the child.
IV. Children's development
Whereas people are well-aware that divorce can be harmful for a large number of children who see their parents getting separated, the masses generally tend to ignore the effects of divorce on children as a whole. "Children of divorce are more depressed and aggressive toward parents and teachers than are youngsters from intact families. They are much more likely to develop mental and emotional disorders later in life" (Leo). Generations can practically be disrupted as a result of the effects that divorce has on children, considering that these individuals gradually come to lose their ability to express feelings with regard to their parents. Parents who get divorced are likely to receive little to no assistance from their children when they grow older (Leo).
The American society apparently experiences fewer difficulties in the present because the number of divorces has lowered. Even with that, one cannot consider that matters are no longer critical when it comes to the effects that divorce has on children. Some emotional problems do not emerge for a long period of time and only reflect on children as they become adults. As they experience problems in their relationships, children acknowledge that they are predisposed to getting separated from the persons that they love.
Individuals apparently experience a larger amount of stress at the moment when they become adults. These people initially appear to cope with the difficulties arising as a result of a divorce and experience practically no problems until the moment when they become adults. According to Ulla Palosaari and Hillevi Aro, "girls who initially adapted well, developed feelings of anxiety during adolescence in relationships with men."(Palosaari, and Aro). By looking at romantic relationships, the way that they work, and the way that they develop into parents, one is likely to understand more about the effects that divorce can have on individuals later in their lives. Antisocial behavior can be observed in many individuals who went through a divorce early in their lives and they mainly come to act inconsiderately because they feel that society betrayed them.
Many individuals prefer to stay in bad marriages because they want what is best for their children. It is certainly difficult to define a "bad marriage," considering that there many have reported to experience lesser problems in their love lives as a result of refraining from bailing out. Surely, it would be wrong to stay with a person who abuses one's rights, but this does not mean that every divorced couple decided to separate because partners could no longer live together.
There is no doubt about the fact that children who see their parents getting divorced suffer greatly as a result of the event. It would be absurd for researchers to focus on trying to convince people to refrain from getting divorced, but it would not be wrong for them to attempt to come up with a plan meant to assist children as they try to get over the problems that they experience because of the divorce. There is a wide range of reasons that contribute to having children experience more or less negativist feelings consequent to a divorce. One's gender, age, and socio-economic character is very probable to be influential in making the respective person vulnerable or invulnerable to the problems arising along with a divorce. The present-day lower frequency of divorces makes it difficult for society to acknowledge the actual problems associated with divorces. It is very important for society to recognize that divorce and its impact on children represents one of the most significant problems that people are currently dealing with. Having a community filled with individuals who are unable to successfully integrate society and influence other in putting across similar behavior can be especially harmful for the general public.
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