Some other factors may also be addressed such as the client's perception of his or her role in homosexuality, if he comes from a culture where it is normal or acceptable for men to be sexually active with other men, so long as he is not sexually passive -- this may affect his sense of his sexual identity as well. It must be stressed, above all, at the first session, that the counselor cannot provide the client with an all-encompassing answer to his or her dilemmas regarding family and identity. The counselor cannot be the person who gives permission to 'leave,' or the person who orders the individual to 'stay.' Rather, the counselor is there as a sounding board. At this early juncture, once the client's readiness to leave or not leave his current...

However the client will hopefully lead with a blueprint, or a set of guidelines to approaching the subject with his current wife that will initiate a painful, but hopefully a constructive line of dialogue for both the family and the client.
Works Cited

Gladding, Samuel. (2005) Counseling Theories: Essential Concepts and Applications. New York: Prentice Hall