This paper examines personal responsibility as a cornerstone of college maturity, defining it as the willingness to accept societal standards and make conscious efforts to live by them. The author discusses how personal responsibility extends beyond time management to encompass decision-making, financial literacy, sexual responsibility, and academic integrity. The paper explores the challenges college students face in developing these skills, including new temptations and distractions, and emphasizes that responsibility is a learned behavior requiring patience and effort. Key components include ceasing to blame others, considering impacts on peers and future self, and maintaining the courage to both challenge and accept being wrong.
Personal responsibility is a hallmark of maturity. In college, we cease to blame other people, such as our parents, for our problems. We also have to learn how to manage our time wisely and develop discipline. Our parents are no longer there to tell us when to study or what time to get up for commitments. The benefits of personal responsibility include becoming more capable of learning from our mistakes and growing accordingly. We also learn how to accept praise and criticism equally, recognizing that we are responsible for both our own mistakes and our own successes.
According to research on the topic, "being responsible is a learned behavior. It is not an accident and it requires patience and effort" (Personal Responsibility, n.d., p. 1). Therefore, becoming responsible for ourselves and accountable for our own behaviors will not necessarily be easy. This is partly because many college students were raised in homes that did not teach personal responsibility. Even students who did develop some personal responsibility at home will discover new challenges and opportunities for taking responsibility.
College introduces new temptations and distractions, such as sex, drugs, and drinking (Haskins, 2009). Students may take time to develop the skills required to cultivate an attitude and behavior of personal responsibility that helps avoid problems and foster a mature outlook on life.
As Haskins (2009) points out, there are deeper elements of personal responsibility beyond learning good time management skills for studying. Personal responsibility can be defined as "the willingness to both accept the importance of standards that society establishes for individual behavior and to make strenuous personal efforts to live by those standards" (Haskins, 2009, p. 1). There are several core components of personal responsibility, and the most important are ceasing to blame others for our mistakes while also considering other people and our own future when making decisions.
Students can take advantage of resources on campus, like counselors or chaplains, for guidance in making difficult decisions. Being surrounded by good friends can help enhance one's sense of personal responsibility, as the more we start to care about other people, the less likely we are to make selfish decisions. We become responsible for the happiness and well-being of others, as well as ourselves.
Personal responsibility does not necessarily mean never having fun. Rather, it means making sure that we know our limits and act sensibly. As Haskins (2009) points out, "personal responsibility means taking all necessary measures to avoid pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections" (p. 1). Students need to explore their sexuality during college years, and behavior in sexual relationships can and should reflect responsibility and maturity that respects the self and others.
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