This paper presents a personal conflict management style assessment based on survey scores across five styles: collaborator, compromiser, controller, accommodator, and avoider. The author analyzes each style's appropriateness for different workplace scenarios, explaining why collaboration dominates in complex, cross-functional environments while control is better suited to structured or operational settings. The paper also identifies strategies for developing underused styles, particularly the accommodator and controller roles, through situational awareness and emotional intelligence. Together, these reflections offer a practical framework for adaptive conflict management and continued professional development.
Using a conflict management style survey to determine my conflict management style was an insightful experience. The scores from the analysis show that my reliance on five conflict management styles in work-related conflict situations ranks as follows: collaborator (45), compromiser (30), controller (21), accommodator (19), and avoider (13). Conflict-handling styles are shaped by the accumulation of experiences, perceptions, and successful and unsuccessful interactions over an extended period of time, defining a person's leadership style in the process (Cerni, Curtis, & Colmar, 2012).
The dominant style of collaborator is best aligned with complex situations where each party in a conflict — including multiple parties — has specific requirements or needs that must be met. Concentrating on creating a shared sense of ownership through collaboration can significantly improve the probability of a successful outcome (Shetach, 2012). Collaboration is also most appropriate when each person or department involved in the conflict operates independently yet depends on a common outcome. Shared ownership of outcomes leads to greater levels of collaboration over time (Römer, Rispens, Giebels, & Euwema, 2012).
Studies have also shown that collaboration is highly effective in knowledge-intensive industries where expertise must be shared across broad groups (Cerni, Curtis, & Colmar, 2012). A collaborative approach to conflict management is well-suited for scenarios where new products are being developed and cross-functional teams are needed to define and build them. In summary, collaborative conflict resolution is most valuable in situations where each department or individual operates independently yet needs to be persuaded to contribute to a shared project and outcome.
A collaborative approach to conflict management is not appropriate in all situations. In environments such as the military, where command-and-control structures are organizationally embedded, a controller approach to conflict management is necessary to keep entire units safe. Collaboration in those circumstances would not be effective. The same holds true for production environments where specific instructions must be followed precisely in order for work to be completed.
"Control and accommodation fit operational, short-term conflict scenarios"
"Emotional intelligence helps build underused conflict management styles"
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