63-64) (I hate you, don't leave me review). The last three chapters deal with treatment and coping skills, which presents an emphasis on communicating with the borderline client. The authors present a system designed to facilitate this and that is called Support Empathy Truth (SET). (p. 101-103). The first stage, Support, is a personal statement of concern about the borderline person. Empathy is an acknowledgment of the person's feelings. Finally, there is Truth, which recognizes the existence of a problem and addresses more practical issues of how to solve it. The SET system is used to defuse unstable situations. From there, the authors provide suggestions about how to cope with certain scenarios and characteristics of the borderline patient (I hate you, don't leave me review).

For many borderline clients bibliotherapy may be a helpful addition to psychotherapy because it would promote active participation in the therapeutic process even when the client is not actually in a psychotherapy session. This is especially important with borderline clients, whose lack of object constancy can lead them to feel abandoned by people who are not physically present. The authors describe a woman who carried a newspaper article that contained quotes from her psychiatrist and referred to it when she was under

They explain, "Seeing her doctor's name in print reinforced his existence and his continued interest and concern for her" (p. 53). In the same way, the assigned reading of a bibliotherapy book would remind the patient of her therapist's involvement and commitment to therapy. I Hate You - Don't Leave Me actually encourages the use of bibliotherapy books for this reason. The beginning of this book could be helpful to clients with BPD. The first few chapters provide more general information about the disorder and its development. Reading these chapters could help the borderline client by giving her information about the disorder and lessening her sense of being alone. However, this book may not be the best resource available for borderline clients themselves. A person who has BPD would benefit more from reading a book that deals directly with managing her own feelings than from one that advises others about how to deal with her (I hate you, don't leave me review).
Along with that, I Hate You - Don't Leave Me could be helpful as a bibliotherapy resource. This is because it provides information about the development and presentation of the disorder. Furthermore, it gives practical strategies for coping. The book is filled by case studies that further illustrate the concepts being discussed and give the reader a deeper understanding of borderline functioning even though it has some small drawbacks (I hate you, don't leave me review).