Love Despite Being The Frequent Essay

Length: 6 pages Sources: 3 Subject: Family and Marriage Type: Essay Paper: #70069075 Related Topics: Mark Twain, Gay Marriage, A Beautiful Mind, Definition
Excerpt from Essay :

For instance, in Descartes' The Passions of the Soul, his "moral concerns lead him to describe the passion of love as altruistic and involving self-sacrifice [but] his general account of passions, however, suggests that all passions (including love) spring from and promote self-interest," leading to a seeming contradiction and debate that ultimately only serves to reinforce outdated notions of love (Frierson 314). This kind of debate around love has allowed different groups, with religions foremost among them, to use love as a means of controlling the populace and their interpersonal lives.

By suggesting that love requires self-sacrifice, one may use another's love in order to get them to do things that they would normally reject outright, and by simultaneously claiming that love stems from some sort of nearly-uncontrollable passion, one may use love as a means of shaming individuals. By describing love solely as the emotions felt and the chemical processes that make up those emotions, one is able to sidestep these moralizing arguments such that one can describe and discuss love without making any claims as to what should be considered "legitimate" or "true" love. The current debate in the United States regarding the legalization of gay marriage stems from this problem, because the underlying argument against gay marriage is that love between two people of the same sex is somehow less legitimate that love between one male and one female. With the stricter definition proposed here, this debate is rendered moot, because the only people who define the legitimacy of the love they feel are the couple in question, and it is left entirely up to them whether they would like to participate in a traditional marking of that experience, just as those ostensibly heterosexual people who go through a starter marriage may choose whether or not they would like to participate in that same tradition.

Though somewhat less prevalent of an issue when describing love, one final thing must be added in regards to the definition of love proposed here. Because...


However, distasteful as this might be for some, it remains necessary to include these possibilities if one desires to have a definition of love that is actually useful. For instance, knowing whether or not a criminal loves his or her victim is exponentially more helpful than simply disregarding his or her given state of mind as inaccurate or otherwise distasteful (remember, as the definition of love proposed here includes chemical experience of love, knowing someone is in love reveals important information about his or her stability and susceptibility to reason). Despite the inclination to say "that's not love" (much in the same way people often say "that's not art"), recognizing that love is an emotional and chemical experience offers the only useful way of understanding the concept as it applies across the entire spectrum of human experience.

Despite the fear that the essence of love is nigh indefinable and the prevalence of idealized notions of love that have no bearing to the realities of human experience, determining a specific, productive definition of love is possible. By recognizing that love is a collection of emotions and chemical changes characterized by certain behaviors and feelings towards other individuals allows one to discuss love without falling into any of the same traps of categorization and distinction which previously hindered a useful consideration of love. Ignoring the outdated notions of love and the rules for determining its legitimacy in the eyes of moralizing institutions allows one to apply this proposed definition of love in order to explain not only recent trends in marriage and divorce rates but also how it can improve society at large by taking better consideration of people's state of mind in an objective, productive way.

Works Cited

Frierson, Patrick. "Learning to Love: From Egoism to Generosity in Descartes." Journal of the History of Philosophy. 40.3 (2002): 313-338. Print.

Gottschall, Jonathan, and Marcus NordlandLast. "Romantic Love: A Literary Universal? ."

Philosophy and Literature. 30.2…

Sources Used in Documents:

Works Cited

Frierson, Patrick. "Learning to Love: From Egoism to Generosity in Descartes." Journal of the History of Philosophy. 40.3 (2002): 313-338. Print.

Gottschall, Jonathan, and Marcus NordlandLast. "Romantic Love: A Literary Universal? ."

Philosophy and Literature. 30.2 (2006): 450-470. Print.

Schaefer, Naomi. "I Do…for Now." Nation Review. 2002: 1-4.

Cite this Document:

"Love Despite Being The Frequent" (2011, September 05) Retrieved October 23, 2021, from

"Love Despite Being The Frequent" 05 September 2011. Web.23 October. 2021. <>

"Love Despite Being The Frequent", 05 September 2011, Accessed.23 October. 2021,

Related Documents
Space Physiology Love of Extremes: Space Physiology
Words: 4350 Length: 15 Pages Topic: Astronomy Paper #: 49424187

Space Physiology Love Of Extremes: Space Physiology About the effect of gravity on the human being in space Early milestones in space exploration and space physiology Gravity The effects of microgravity on human physiology Physiological changes during a space flight The effects of microgravity on the human body The Vestibular System Orientation in space Space Adaptation Syndrome (SAS) and Space Motion Sickness (SMS) The effects of radiations on astronauts in space DNA damage mechanisms by radiations The biological effects of radiations Acute effects

Ovid's "The Art of Love
Words: 1056 Length: 3 Pages Topic: Literature Paper #: 45736923

If one doubts this, consider Ovid's most overly scathing prose is served for Caesar and contemporary politics. Even better than at plays, one can pick up women witnessing spectacles and triumphs: "When, lately, Caesar, in mock naval battle, / exhibited the Greek and Persian fleets, / surely young men and girls came from either coast, / and all the peoples of the world were in the City? / Who did

Isolation Has Been a Frequent
Words: 2467 Length: 7 Pages Topic: Literature Paper #: 65583048

Kafka's Joseph K. goes through a confusing and bizarre experience over the course of the novel, learning more and more about the legal bureaucracy surrounding him without ever actually learning anything about it. In a sense, Joseph K.'s experience mirrors the human experience in any society, because it demonstrates how the justification for legal and political authority is ultimately an illusion; there is no inherent justification for human political

Thin Line Between Love and Hate
Words: 1188 Length: 3 Pages Topic: Sports - Women Paper #: 22086806

cause of Othello's tragedy: a fine line, not between love and hate, but too heavy a line between men and women Othello: "It is the cause, oh my soul" Act 5, Scene II What is the cause of the bloody end of "Othello?" Othello has one of the most horrifying ends of all of Shakespeare's tragedies -- a man smothers a woman he apparently loves, who gave up everything to marry him,

Evaluation of Domestic Violence Illustrated in What S Love Got to...
Words: 2409 Length: 5 Pages Topic: Leadership Paper #: 47586451

Love Got to Do with It? (1993): Tina Turner BEHS 453 (section) Plot synopsis The movie, 'What's Love Got to do with it?' is a biography of pop/R&B singer Anna Mae Bullock (stage name- Tina Turner). It records the struggle she underwent to escape the clutches of her violent husband, Ike (played in the movie by Laurence Fishburne). The first few scenes of the movie portray young Tina's (played by Angela Bassett)

Application of a Pedagogic Model to the Teaching of Technology to...
Words: 60754 Length: 230 Pages Topic: Teaching - Technology Paper #: 60817292

Pedagogic Model for Teaching of Technology to Special Education Students Almost thirty years ago, the American federal government passed an act mandating the availability of a free and appropriate public education for all handicapped children. In 1990, this act was updated and reformed as the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, which itself was reformed in 1997. At each step, the goal was to make education more equitable and more accessible to